These Things Are Severely Harming Your Relationship
Butterflies, giddiness, rush, excitement… All these feelings are typical staples of the honeymoon stage of a new relationship. However, these four fears could send your relationship to an early grave:
Fear of getting hurt:
A break up is one of the worst experiences you can go through, which justifies why most people are afraid of being hurt. Yet, getting hurt is almost inevitable in any relationship. Even the happiest couples experience occasional ups and downs. Sometimes, you may be tired, angry or sensitive. So, hurt is bound to occur. But it does not mean your relationship is falling apart or broken.
This kind of fear should not keep you from entering in a new relationship. If you have a partner who makes you happy, don’t let the fear of getting hurt cripple you or take its toll on your relationship.
Fear of rejection:
While you may know that you are good enough, the fear of rejection is always there. Unfortunately, this kind of fear may be self-destructive.
Lisa Firestone, a clinical psychologist, asserts that in any relationship, the only person you can control is yourself. Your openness to achieving the love you desire can make you change entirely. Plus, your relationship can show you how you deal with your significant other as well as increase your capacity to love. So, it’s totally up to you to decide who you want to be in the relationship and act accordingly, regardless of your partner’s behaviors or actions.
Fear of settling:
This kind of fear is unhealthy, since it shows that your partner is not good enough. While the grass always seems greener on the other side, sometimes the fear of missing out something good keeps you from seeing what is right in front of you.
If you are not satisfied with certain things in your relationship, let your partner know so you can sort them out. You should recognized the positive things in your relationship, and write down the reasons why you entered this relationship in the first place. This can keep you focused on the things you have and distract you from the things you think might be better for you.
Fear of vulnerability:
In a 2011 TED Talk, Brene Brown revealed that vulnerability could fuel your relationship. Indeed, expressing your vulnerability and being open about it could bolster your connection to your partner. Happy couples who feel strong love and connection fully embraced their vulnerability.
They not only share and accept their vulnerabilities, but also see them as a beautiful thing. Of course, sometimes, you may feel unsecure about your vulnerability, but to build strong rapport with your partner, you need to be brave and believe you -and your partner- are worthy of that bond. This will make your intimacy and love grow stronger.