Easy ways to boost your self-trust
Self-trust is the first step towards success. However, it requires a great deal of time, effort and perseverance. Learning to trust yourself will boost your self-confidence, reduce your need for others’ validation, and bolster your social relationships.
Take some time for yourself:
Taking good care of the person in the mirror is bound to improve your self-confidence. So, make sure you spare some time for the activities you love. If you bury yourself in work or school, you may encounter frustration and self-doubt.
Allocate a portion of your time to an activity you enjoy the most. For instance, watch a movie, go for a run, or relax on your couch to read your favorite book. Also, dedicate some time every evening prior to bedtime to writing down three things you are thankful for, while enjoying your favorite music, and drinking a warm drink. Make it a tradition!
Appreciate your values, interests and skills:
Take 20 minutes of your time and go to a quiet place where you will not be disturbed. Write a list of your essential personal values, interests and skills that make you who you are – write at least five things in each category. Whenever you feel doubt or worry, revisit the list to remind yourself of your positive values and skills – pretty sure the list won’t be short. Moreover, if you face a dilemma, use the list to check whether or not your decision matches your values. Likewise, make a list of your strengths and achievements, so you can recall the good things you’ve accomplished in the past.
Learn to say no:
While many people develop a knee jerk reaction to say “yes” when asked for a service or a favor, it is totally fine to say ‘no” sometimes. Therefore, you need to set your personal boundaries and stop doing things for the others. So, if you often find yourself doing something you don’t really want to do, or feel the pressure to accept things against your will, it’s time to learn to say no. Respecting your personal values and boundaries will improve your self-trust. Whenever you lack the energy to do something or simply don’t want to do it, you can simply refuse it in a respectful manner.
Forgive yourself for the mistakes you’ve made:
In case the negative voice in your head is louder than the positive one, give yourself a break. Instead of plunging into self-blame and negativity, remember the positive qualities you have. Try to comfort yourself when you make a mistake and avoid making the same mistake next time. Instead of calling yourself stupid, say “it’s okay”, “it’s not a big deal”, or “it was a big mistake, but I will learn from it next time”. It’s important to learn to be kind and understanding with yourself, so as to be kinder and more understanding with others when they make the same mistakes.
Concentrate on finding a solution when a problem arises:
Should the unexpected happen, you need to be ready to deal with the problem, instead of blaming yourself for it. First, determine the issue, devise a plan to solve it, and then, implement the plan.
- It’s totally fine to be emotional about it, before thinking rationally about your next move.
- Stay flexible and embrace things that don’t go exactly as planned.
- When the problem is solved, assess the result and learn from your previous mistakes.
- You can seek advice from the friends or family members you can trust.
- Be ready to take risks and break away from your comfort zone
Don’t be a perfectionist:
Self-trust does not imply that you will always make the right choices, or say the right things. Resist the urge to be a perfectionist; nobody is perfect and fallibility is human. Some people are too afraid to make mistakes that they don’t even try. So, you should continue to make mistakes and learn from them in order to grow and improve yourself. This way, you will trust yourself more.
If you say or do something wrong, it’s okay to apologize. Just remember that failing is not the same as failure. When you start to reconsider things and want to make changes, you’ll know you’re growing.
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